...To prevent the anger from consuming me, to endure the nightmares that would follow her departure for another kind of love and life, I needed a new and very effective belief system, a new and powerful way to see the universe. It was then I would look to the east, something I had always leaned … Continue reading a real man’s divorce story.2
If anyone had a reason to feel sorry for himself, or to feel great anger, one could say I did. In fact, all my friends said I did. That I had justifiable (legal) cause for anger, legal right to fight hard for retribution for my suffering. I was living in Saudi at the time, far … Continue reading a real man’s divorce story.1
We grew apart, we didn't fall apart, and it wasn't a choice. Only the conclusions around the divorce was a choice. I even see smoking or drinking as more of a choice in leading to the ultimate separation; death. He wasn't happy in our marriage, was that his choice to not be happy? I tried … Continue reading Divorce Isn’t a Failure…When We Grow!
For me it's the opposite, how can you NOT stay friends, specially if there was love, friendship, kids and happy memories. That was my choice. If you loved someone you want him or her to be happy, and stay friends, wouldn't you? Everything else is selfish and wrong for me. What's the difference when it's … Continue reading Until Death Do Us Apart
When the divorce was obvious, I just wanted to stay friends. I wanted a friend in him, not only have conversations about selling the house, excel files about costs, and trying to solve problems. The answer I got was that that wasn't possible; "No one can be friends after a divorce!" I was shocked! Why not? What … Continue reading Death or Divorce – What’s the Difference?
One of the hardest disconnections in my life was my divorce. When my ex husband became more and more grumpy, more and more miserable, he needed a change. I asked him what it was he didn't like in his life. That was the start to our separation. I could see that he was unhappy, I felt … Continue reading Separation – the Most Difficult Disconnection