We grew apart, we didn’t fall apart, and it wasn’t a choice. Only the conclusions around the divorce was a choice. I even see smoking or drinking as more of a choice in leading to the ultimate separation; death. He wasn’t happy in our marriage, was that his choice to not be happy? I tried to”fix it” but it wasn’t up to me, nor the kids, it was up to him, but he couldn’t find happiness with me, he wanted me to change, and I didn’t want to change. I couldn’t become something I wasn’t, and I don’t think we had more of a choice than living an unhealthy life leading to premature death. He had to find his happiness and peace, but not by changing me.
The only difference was that he saw the separation as a failure, something wrong, I didn’t. I never saw growing apart as wrong, I saw it as life. I didn’t fall in love with him 22 years ago because it was right. I just fell in love, and now I didn’t walk another path than his because it was right, I was just me.
Sad, but not wrong. Sometimes life is sad, nothing we can avoid, but it doesn’t need to be wrong. How we see it is up to us, good or bad, or both. That’s the only choice we have. It would have been more sad to keep our couple connection intact by force when in reality it was gone. It would have been paddling against the stream, until drowning, until we sat at one of those nice restaurants without exchanging a word, watching others.
It took 3 years. Then we could start a new kind of friendship, respect the difference and create a new connection. Three years of disconnection, to finally start connecting in a total new form. Sometimes we have to disconnect to re-connect. That’s the ultimate mind detox and as such I feel hugely grateful. I’m sorry for the pain I caused, and I see the value of Ho’oponopono.
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Everyone can heal naturally, it's what bodies and (free) minds want. Our O• Method is based on physics, chemistry and biology with emphasis on the first one as the rest often follow naturally. We divide our work in three parts: Body-Mind-Soul. To allow them all to detox and let go we work with energy (Prana, Xi, Vitality, Spirit, Pneuma or whatever you call the life force, it's the same force mentioned in ancient texts) to heal on all levels, i.e. from chronic disease, toxicity, depression and traumas using our own method, reaching 96% success rate which is unheard of by others in our sector. Would you know of anyone with that result, let us know.
Considering that we invented and dumped >120.000 (petro)chemically derived substances since 1945, of which many are very toxic, getting healthy will most likely include a good old body detox sooner or later.
My love for Ayurveda started in 1993 with Deepak Chopra and after a few turns in life I quit my job as a Nordic Brand Manager and BI strategist at the largest Nordic telecom operator and re-schooled in natural medicine. Besides Dr. Chopra I have studied Dr. Lad, Dr. Siva (Pune, India) and other prominent teachers in their field, but the real difference comes with a practiced. I added nutrition, Orthomolecular Medicine with Dr. Nielsen (USA/Spain) and herbalism.
Today we teach those whom want to continue our work and we love to dig down in etymology and the original (mainly Avestan, Pali and Sanskrit) scripts to understand the words fully and I fall in love with the concepts over and over again for every sutra. This love affair that created a few books (Amazon), presentations, essayes and many events and consultations, is still giving us Yang-Yin balance and inspiration. I guess with that we are recognizing the value of Dao De Ching 💚🌿💜
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